Who’s Speaking Here?
Before you can regain control over your Shadow, you must be able to distinguish its voice from your own. The next time you feel stuck, scared or discouraged, thinking about all the reasons why you won’t make it, you’ll know your Shadow’s up to its old tricks. Your Shadow’s voice never reflects your highest good. It never speaks to the creative, committed, charming and gifted person you really are. Your Shadow speaks to your fears, your insecurities, and your past mistakes to keep you stuck in the same old rut, which according to your Shadow is a safer place to be than out in the world turning your dreams into reality.
Your Shadow thinks it can predict the future. It knows with absolute certainty that only horrible things will result from you making that scary phone call or crashing that audition. Your Shadow also knows what other people are thinking. It reminds you that others think you’re just a user when you ask for their advice or insight.
Your Shadow hopes for the worst and prepares for disaster. It believes that any one action you take will determine the demise of your career as a whole. Your Shadow is quite the drama queen, believing in black lists, ruined reputations, and curses.
Your Shadow believes in limitation. It knows that if you believe it too, you will never reach your fullest potential, so your Shadow often reminds you that you can’t do stuff, you’re not good enough, you’re not ready, you’re unlucky, or you don’t know enough yet.
Your Shadow creates anxiety by reminding you of all the shoulds, musts, and have-to-dos in your life. When you operate according to what you should do rather than what you could do, you lose the power to choose for yourself. That’s just how your Shadow likes it!
Your Shadow thrives on guilt. It will work overtime to make you feel inadequate, selfish, afraid or guilty. It loves to hold a grudge and use your past actions against you. By focusing on the past, you have no room for the future, which according to your Shadow is the perfect place to be.
Your Shadow is a law-abiding citizen. It lives according to general rules and regulations while completely ignoring your true desires. Your Shadow never rocks the boat. It never sticks up for you and always defers to the wants of others.
Do not fall victim to your Shadow’s tricks. Know that your true voice only supports and encourages you. Your highest self believes anything is possible for you and champions you as you boldly take action toward the life you desire. All those other thoughts come from your Shadow. They’re not yours and you don’t have to buy into them.
All in all, your Shadow is fear itself. When fear runs the show, you have no options and your Shadow knows it. Your job is to regain the power by stopping the Shadow’s conversation. Once you do that, you’re back in the driver’s seat and you can move through any fear in order to accomplish anything.
Five Steps to Keep You Moving
Stop your Shadow’s crazy talk and ask yourself, “Who’s speaking here?” If the conversation does not reflect your highest good, it’s just your Shadow talking.
Let it plead its case. Remember, your Shadow is designed to protect you, so go ahead and hear what on earth might be dangerous.
Ask yourself, “How dangerous does that really feel? How likely is that to really happen?”
Ask yourself, “What positive possibility is more likely than this fear? What’s on the other side of this fear?”
Determine which one you will choose. Will you choose the fear or will you choose the incredible opportunities on the other side of it?
Remember, you win at Shadow Boxing every time you refuse to let your Shadow stop you from taking action. The goal here is not to disprove your Shadow’s theories or to destroy your Shadow all together. Instead, it’s just about staying energized; movin’ and groovin’ toward the success that surely awaits you.
You must be willing to take risks, face your fears and grow if you’re ever going to realize your Tao. If your actions are inspired and connected to your purpose, you don’t ever have to wonder if your decisions are correct. You never have to doubt yourself or let your Shadow get the best of you. What’s the worst that will happen if you do those things that scare you? You’ll survive. You’ll learn from experience and keep going. Now, go work your declaration mojo!